If you’re reading this it’s likely that either you know for sure, or you have a feeling that someone you care about might be in an abusive relationship.
If you’re worried about someone you might have felt frustrated by the way they’re acting. You might not understand why they don’t just leave. An abuser will work hard to control and isolate the person or people they’re harming. The person you’re worried about might feel completely unable to leave. They may have been threatened with physical violence (including sexual violence). The abuser may also have threatened to kill them, any children in the family, a pet, or someone else.
As a friend or relative, you may not be fully aware of what is going on, but you might see changes in the person you are worried about.
There may be many outward signs of change, but here are some things you may notice:
- They are quieter than usual.
- They don’t go out as much as they used to.
- They aren’t spending a lot of time with their friends.
- They are always checking the time.
- They don’t talk about things at home.
- They look different or wear different things.
- They're drinking more than usual.
- They don't seem to have any money to buy things they need.
- They make excuses.
- They have marks or bruises they can’t explain.
- They miss work.
- They just seem different.